Katie Heaney: Would You Rather? A Memoir of Growing Up and Coming Out



I sat on my review of this book for half a week because I was so emotional after I finished reading it Katie Heaney and I have a lot in common I ve had a boyfriend but ten ears ago Since then I ve had little to no interest in dating despite feeling like I should Her talk with her therapist about how most people don t feel dread when it comes to dating was illuminating to say the least While I don t identify as a lesbian I didn t realise I was bisexual until late in my twenties so seeing someone else go through the same process someone who found it just as difficult as I did made me feel seen and less alone Perhaps contradictory I did leave the book feeling lonelier than I have in a long time Some of that is petty jealousy why did she get to realise she was gay and find love immediately Why not me some of it is just finding the path I have to walk hard and being tired This is perhaps personal than a book review should be Heaney spends a lot of time lamenting the way people related to her after her last memoir and just wanting to be herself with her own story It s hard not to project onto something like this and while I do sympathize with her it s only to a point Additionally I found her realisations about friendship disheartening She finds love and her friends matter less to her It s not that they don t matter they do of course it s just that being in a relationship means she has the most important person in her life and she needs her friends less As a single person I found this a bitter pill to swallow It s not that we single people don t know that already Or that I would have wanted her to lie and say everything was exactly the same as it always was with her friendships I have had enough friends enter into serious relationships to know that s just the way of life I guess it was just hard to read My bad How many times have I said I was going to start avoiding current memoirs Yet this caught my eye at the bookstore I read a few pages that seemed good and I brought it up to the register for reasons that my self of 9 days ago may have been able to explain but my self of today cannot Would You Rather was frustrating in the sense that every now and again there would be an interesting passage that would keep me reading hoping for of the same but in the end there were so many things I disliked about this book that I don t have the energy to articulate all of them If Mixed Tape Series Volume you ve liked Katie Heaney s writing in the pastou ll probably like this If The Magdalen you re a late blooming lesbian or a 27ear old who s unhealthily obsessed with Harry Styles this book may make All the Devils are Here you feel less alone As for the rest ofou well it s Miles to Go (The Walk, your life andou can read what The Wake you want butou can t say I didn t warn ou And as for me is there some kind of hotline people can call when they need to be talked down off the ledge of buying the sorts of books they ve vowed not to buy Asking for a friend It s comforting to know there are women out there who assumed they were strai. A collection of poignant relatable essays from the author of Never Have I Ever about coming out in her late twenties entering into her first relationship and figuring out what it means to be an adultWhen Katie Heaney published her first book of essays chronicling her singledom up to age.

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Ght didn t date men but never wondered why and then realized one day hey I m actually a lesbianI didn t think too much of the book though tbh I d never heard of Katie Heaney before I decided to pick up Would You Rather A Memoir of Growing Up and Coming Out but the blurb was too interesting for me to pass up Sexuality in general intrigues me especially the personal exploration of sexuality I m always interested in someone s sexuality discovery story in romance as well as non fiction and stories where people realize they are bisexualpansexual or gay later in life always catch my attentionKatie Heaney was in her late 20s when she realized that her inability to find the right chemistry with a man and her sneaking suspicion that her awareness of women might meant that she may not be in fact perfectly straight I liked that everything wasn t cut and dry with her story She had attractions to men I mean how did I NOT realize that lesbians being attracted to Harry Styles is a thing and lots of crushes so the dawning realization that she was in fact gay wasn t something that she woke up knowing one day There were ears where she debated with herself something I found to be relatable and realistic I personally consider myself to be straight but perhaps my little okay strong attraction to Shane from The L Word and than a passing attraction to a certain type of butch lesbian might put me closer to a Kinsey 1 than anything else I always think of sexuality as muddled and complex than most people think and I liked how we really got to explore Katie s journey in discovering herself with her Katie Heaney is a great writer and I often felt like I was having a conversation with a friend The ending dragged a tiny bit but Katie s personal musing and obsessions came across as uirky and charming I wanted to know her and everything about her story A great read for those who are uestioning their sexuality or someone who simply wants an interesting easy to read memoir centered around dating and self discovery Copy provided in exchange for an honest review I have never in my life related to anything as much as this I don t think I ll ever find words to describe what listening to this memoir meant to me A lot of the essays actually freaked me out because that experience could ve been written about me EXACTLY like thatI can already feel this having a huge impact on me and I finished it just a couple of minutes ago I m incredibly grateful this book somehow found its way into my life A REALLY excellent follow up to 2014 s Never Have I Ever It was fascinating to read about Katie s journey of self discovery and sorry to use this annoying phrase self actualization Funny perceptive and well written I honestly tore through this one I received this book for free through LibraryThing s Early ReviewersIt wasn t until I actually read the blurb on the back that I realized that this was written by the girl who wrote Never Have I Ever My Life So Far Without a Date I had. 25 she was still waiting to meet the right guy Three ears later a lot changed For one thing she met the right girl Here for the first time Katie opens up about realizing that she is gay She tackles everything from the trials of dating in New York City to the growing pains of her first

Really wanted to read that book and even marked it as such on Goodreads but I never did get around to reading it I m glad that I was able to read this book because it does touch upon some of the themes that Never Had I Ever coveredSo basically I loved this book I loved it because I related so much to it I m not a lesbian so I couldn t relate to her coming out but I did relate to a bunch of other stuff I related to the fact that she was single until her late twenties I m currently 23 and still perpetually single I related to her anxiety especially when it came to googling medical symptoms and convincing ourself that The Private Lives of the Saints you have some grave condition I ve done that many times I related to her obsessive bed making Pretty much I felt like I was a lot like Katie I saw a lot of myself in herWhat really made the book so fantastic was the writing It was so conversational It felt like she was talking toou Every essay was clear to the point and a lot of fun I also really liked the balance between the fun and the serious There were a lot of uirky anecdotes but also a lot of introspectionOverall this was a very touching and relatable memoir For book reviews be sure to check out my blog Something about Katie Heaney is remarkably relatable and I think Biggles Goes to War you will find that whetherou consider Mission New York (Scavenger Hunt Adventure yourself gay or not But don t get me wrong I couldn t be gayer This review and others can be found at BW Book Reviews I received this ARC from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review This has no influence on my rating Would You Rather A Memoir of Growing Up and Coming Out will be released on March 6th 201845 Thisear I wanted to read a non fiction book by a ueer author about being ueer This spoke out to me when I saw it on Netgalley because it was exactly what I was looking for What I didn t expect was to relate so strongly with the author s experience in coming out later in life and finding out who she was at the age of twenty eightKatie Heaney wrote a book called Never Have I Ever My Life So Far Without a Date and it was released in 2014 She references this book often in Would You Rather because in it she describes never having dated being a virgin at twenty five and being attracted to men At the time s I received a free copy of this book from a Goodreads giveaway for an honest reviewThis book wasokay I guess It wasn t terrible but it wasn t good either I feel like the title was a bit misleading Growing Up and Coming Out is actually of Coming Out and Spending Most of the Book Talking about Details of My Life and OpinionsI tried I really did and I m sorry but I just don t care about this girl s life It s great that she s using a platform to talk about coming out and navigating expectations but as soon as she started talking about her love for horoscopes Harry Styles or her need to always make the bed I realized I honestly couldn t care less This book really had no trajectory Katie Heaney had a great platform here and the opportunity to make a chang. Elationship from obsessing over Harry Styles because actually he does look a bit like a lesbian to learning to accept herself all over again Exploring love and sexuality with her neurotic wit and endearing intimacy Katie shares the message that it's never too late to find love or oursel.

Katie Heaney is the author of Public Relations Dear Emma and Never Have I Ever as well as the forthcoming memoir Would You Rather Penguin Random House February 2018 Her writing has also appeared in New York magazine online Cosmopolitan The Atlantic Racked and The Hairpin among other places She lives in Brooklyn